In His Likeness w/ AntTBri

The heart of the king is in the Lord’s hand  but where prey tale is his head?  Lying in Delilah’s lap.

“And she said unto him, How canst though say I love thee, when thine heart is not with me?…Judges 16:15a

When embarking upon this journey my quest was fixed, focused and if I’m gonna remain honest, fretful.  I wanted to know Delilah’s strength but I feared becoming the stigma of her weakness, that people would think I was promoting trickery, treachery or justifying trifling tricks.  But something in me needed to know, understand how a man of Samson’s stature, strength and spiritual grounding  could ahab aheb (pronounced aw-hab)  Lady D. Something in me wanted to know how to help diffuse the fear, counter her motive, mannerisms and make shift attempt at reciprocating love. For me to learn from her I had to find a way to respect his choice of her, to intentionally note the similarities and differences noted in her approach and make it work to my advantage. ..use it for the good of him not the downfall of what I detest, distrust and despise in what I think I know about her and want to distance myself from.  So I took a seat in observation and stuck to my objective in effort to learn what a man needs, better yet what secures his choice to love having been jilted  (Judges 15:6) by a woman using the same tactics prior to and just like her. What is his justification (type) (Judges 14:3) that he would not choose practically or someone safe or likely?  What, if any,  purpose does Lady D serve?  Does a powerful, spirit lead man need a Lady D or someone proficient in her strengths?  What does she give him or provide that no other woman does? A place to lay his head (Judges 16:19).

A man of authority,  after being great, living out his call, dealing with rejection, adversity and life on life terms needs some place to lay his head.  Lady D. stands out from other women for no other reason other than giving Samson a place to lay his head.  Contrary to what we’ve been taught and not absolving the damage, destruction and devious (ness) of a woman with wrong motives. Her sexiness and sex wasn’t  the lure, trap or downfall of a influential man. It’s using the pressure he has to rest against him. That’s the warning, the problem with her approach…it’s flawed because it’s provided in pretense is fake, fraudulent but not foolish.   

If so, the Philistines (enemy) would have prevailed against him in Timnath when the first wife enticed him to get the truth to save her family. Yet she remains nameless, as to the woman he bedded in Gaza, all we know of her is she was in the business of exchanging favors.  Love isn’t referenced until we’re introduced to this lady Delilah who resided in the valley of Sorek.  She never became his wife but made history as the mistress who betrayed, bartered and brought down the man of strength.

Lady D was patient, persistent, persuasive and perceptive.  She kept with it even though he kept blatantly lying to her. She was all the negatives attributed her but she was also a smart chick…

My heart was compelled to learn Samson’s pattern, figure out his petition and just like Queen Esther please the king by giving him what he liked, wanted or needed  juxtaposed to what I would choose to give him.

Lady D is criticized in Christian(dom), her tactics are marveled at in secular arenas.   Grandmother’s,  aunt’s, cousin’s and friends of old have been instructing girls how to get what you want from a man for years. This is the story plot of a many tales remembered.  Stella’s adopted mother in Charles Dickens Great Expectations raised her daughter to break a man, punishing her for not controlling her passions when she demonstrated she felt something for Pip.  Teaching her beauty is a destroyer, happiness is deception and love is death. What a dreadful, dark and daunting perspective of love to maintain, practice and procure. What a hindrance to what love can be if given for all the right reasons without the hidden agendas and narcissism.

When one thinks of Lady D you might be tempted to think she was cold, calloused and calculating and she was but that wasn’t all there is to see. Christian woman instantly demonize her and aren’t willing to learn the lesson not so apparent. She as a result of Samson’s end is abhorred and women are warned against practicing her ways.  Yet men prefer firey, fiesty, freaky type women and it will work to your advantage as long as you maintain pure motives when emploring.  Women who address the pressure a man has to rest add to him, can help and not intentionally hurt him. So there is the give, the proof of the adage to be a lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets.

Is there a strength, strategy and skill of knowing how to effectively entice, entertain and  enrapture the heart of your man?  What does he have to see in you in order for him to gift you with it?  That after all is the gift right? Are there stages of trust? Does it take time? Whatever it is noone can deny the tactic these women use can get and keep a man. King Solomon warned his son against the strange,  seductive, sexy and salacious woman (Proverb 6:24-26) because of her motive not her mannerisms. So the problem never was a warning against their woman.

When I look into the eyes of the blind man unable to see why he is so ridiculed, abhorred and wanted by the masses of those desiring to bring him down.  I’m forced to look into those dark sockets, void of eyeballs and see the humbled, hampered and hurt heart of the man gutted by Lady D’s action against him because she had the wrong motive.  I see a little boy who never fit in, found his way outside of his gift who wanted to be seen, safe and able to share his heart and head with a woman who challenged,  checked and cherished him above and beyond everything. He knew what Lady D was after, he was proficient in the game of love, he had played and lost before her.  It wasn’t that she was so smart, sensual or a schemer.  It was the pressure to rest, his vulnerability while in the valley of his life that should cause every well meaning women to pause.  After so many wins, being constantly chased on other terrains Samson found Lady D in a valley.  She didn’t grow bored with attaining his heart.  She was never satisfied with parts and pieces…she refused to settle and kept pushing, persisting on all. She was forthcoming with her desire, upfront with her dialogue. Lady D was determined, she wasn’t detoured by his resistance to being known or his refusal to let her in. She wanted to know the innermost workings of what made him his version of man. You got to appreciate this womans technique and accept that many woman give up much too soon because of the first lie, the fact that he won’t leave and cleave, he isn’t emotionally available and is satisfied with simply exchanging bodily fluids when the other head rises.  Lady D used her brain and body to her advantage asserting if you love me you’ll trust me with your secrets,  what scares you, and the potency of your strength.  Instead of fearing the negative outcome of wrong motives when applying Lady D’s tactics women should adapt what separates and makes her significant…give him a safe and secure place to lay his head.

Samson may have been worn down upon deciding to love Lady D, he suffered as a result of the wrong motive behind her efforts but God would restore his strength and help him defeat more enemies after her because his heart was indeed in the hands of the King and his head still needed a place to rest.

May we never betray the confidence of the heart that loves us, nor use his weakness to profit our selfish agenda to get paid for the opportunity to give or grant him a place to lay his head.  May we understand and under gird his anointing and resist the tendency to attack him where he’s flawed and left wanting.  Give him  more than visual appeal, vocal simulation and access to your vaginal chambers…become his safe place, a listening ear, a nurturing physical touch of therapy when he’s tired, worn out and needs the simplicity of a lap upon which he can confidently lay his head. Purpose in your heart to be the kind of lady  to whom a powerful, pragmatic and purposeful leader can subcumb to the pressure to rest his head~AntTBri

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